Are you rushing into a relationship?

Hello, beautiful soul. Are you single right now and feel that you have a sense of urgency to be in a relationship? Maybe you're in your 40’s or in your 50’s? There is something that women go through when they turn 40 that creates this sense of urgency. When that happens, we put on these rose-colored glasses because our need to be in a relationship is so strong.

When you start to feel like this, everyone you date is going to be innocent until proven guilty and we're going to put on band-aids. It's like getting a new car and you get a scratch on it. You want to like take the scratch off and pretend it didn't even happen. That is how it is in the beginning stages of dating. If you get a little scratch on it, we want to buff it out.

We want to look at the reality of people we are dating. We want to see who they are. As they show up, we don't want to reveal too much. They get to chameleon themselves and show up for who they think you want them to be. So, what happens is, you get six months to a year in the relationship, and you recognize this person isn't at all.

When finding a partner, keep in mind what is important to you. Connection is one of the aspects that is really important. As humans, we are really wired for connection. There's nothing that they could do to make that connection happen. Keep that in mind when you're going into a relationship. Do you feel that connection or not?

We want to be real about it - real about the situation and honest with ourselves. When you start to feel that sense of urgency, come back home to you. I want you to nurture yourself and feel your own needs. Treat yourself like you would a young girl who's going through a hard time. Befriend her, honor her, and don’t shame her.

If you're single right now, being in a relationship can, can seem so glamorous. You can feel alone when you're single and you have all these fantasies in your head of what a relationship could look like. Maybe you're feeling sorry for yourself?  All those are normal things to do when you're single. But remember when you do get into relationship, no one can ever complete you.

If there are no potentials partners or maybe there are, and you're not sure where it's going, I want you to take that sense of a need for connection and connect with you. It is so powerful when we bring that back to ourselves.

I love the mantra, “Urgency is a lie.” Urgency is a lie, so whenever you feel yourself starting to feel a sense of urgency, recognize that you are a valuable woman who is so loved and so loving and deserving of love because you were born that way.

There's nothing you have to change about yourself, but come back home to yourself, nurture yourself, and be with yourself. The more you practice this, the easier it gets and the more it feels more natural it feels to connect with yourself.

I hope this helps you. I believe in you keep shining.

-Angela Rose

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